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Quotes and poems that make us think

Pause to Ponder

The object of a new year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul.

~ G. K. Chesterton
Do you have a New Year’s resolution that will rejuvenate your spirit. I challenge you to pursue your own happiness!

15 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
~Dorothy Law Nolte
I think this poem has some great lessons in it and I would like to use it and the accompanying book as a framework to talk about values. But before I go any further you must promise me one thing. You must promise me that you will not read this as a checklist and use it to beat yourself up. None of us can be all these things all the time. WE ARE NOT PERFECT. I work with a lot of moms who heap a whole lot of guilt on themselves for making mistakes. I am not giving you more ammunition to use against yourself. But I do think we can work towards these things. We all want to raise confident, kind, patient, generous children. Here are some tips here to help us do that. Over the next few weeks lets look at them together and find ways to incorporate them into our daily lives.

15 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

things of the heart croppedA quote from Anne Morrow Lindbergh regarding the challenges of balance in a woman’s life.

“With a new awareness, both painful and humorous, I begin to understand why the saints were rarely married women. I am convinced it has nothing inherently to do, as I once supposed, with chastity or children. It has to do primarily with distractions. The bearing, rearing, feeding and educating of children; the running of a house with its thousand details; human relationships with their myriad pulls–woman’s normal occupations in general run counter to creative life, or contemplative life, or saintly life. The problem is not merely one of Woman and Career, Woman and the Home, Woman and Independence. It is more basically: how to remain whole in the midst of the distractions of life; how to remain balanced, no matter what centrifugal forces tend to pull one off center; how to remain strong, no matter what shocks come in at the periphery and tend to crack the hub of the wheel.”
- Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea
Taking the time to read this passage is one way to find some stillness at the hub of the wheel. Savor it!


14 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

“I am only one.

But still, I am one.

I cannot do everything,

But still, I can do something.

And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”

~Edward Everett Hale
What one thing will you do today to make a difference?

07 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

things of the heart cropped“If women were convinced that a day off or an hour of solitude was a reasonable ambition, they would find a way of attaining it.  As it is, they feel so unjustified in their demand that they rarely make the attempt…The world today does not understand, in either man or woman, the need to be alone…Certain springs are tapped only when we are alone.  The artist knows he must be alone to create; the writer, to work out his thoughts; the musician, to compose; the saint, to pray.  But women need solitude in order to find again the true essence of themselves:  that firm strand which will be the indispensable center of a whole web of human relationships.  She must find that inner stillness which Charles Morgan describes as ‘the stilling of the soul within the activities of the mind and body so that it might be still as the axis of a revolving wheel is still’…This is an end toward which we could strive – to be the still axis within the revolving wheel of relationships, obligations and activities…The problem is how to still the soul in the midst of its activities.  In fact, the problem is how to feed the soul.” 

-Anne Morrow Lindbergh

07 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

things of the heart croppedNothing Gold Can Stay

Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.

~Robert Frost


What current bliss do you want to savor before it transforms into something different?



07 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

things of the heart croppedIt’s not complicated.  You are a parent; you have to plan to be available to your children twenty-four hours a day for the rest of your life.”

– Veronique Vienne


06 Nov 2013

Pause to Ponder

Ithings of the heart cropped never would have noticed

The first white snowdrop

Pushed through dirty snow

A clothespin nested in the grass…

An ant within a flower…

The pertness of a chickadee…

Dust mice hiding in my closet…

That penny lost a week ago…

A hairpin lodging in the floor

(How many years?)…

The soggy pine cones tight and narrow…

The dirty rocks gathered by winter’s plows…

They would have gone unseen


I would not have remembered

The coldness of fresh snow…

The delight of a sled ride…

The exuberance of spring’s first day…

The sadness of the day’s end…

The hugeness of a house…

The longing in a rainy day…

The friendliness of a stray…

The kindliness of humanity…

They would have been forgotten,

If it were not for my child.


-Margaret Steele

What did you see through your child’s eyes today?

01 Nov 2013